Consider Infertility a Blessing

I remember calling my dad for the first time after I'd gotten the news.  I was in tears as I told him I might not ever be able to have children.  His response?  "Well, consider it a blessing.. kids can be a pain in the ass."  A blessing?  Consider infertility a blessing?  I'm trying to search for anything GOOD about infertility and I'm coming up empty.  Does he really think the inability to have children is a blessing?  And the "kids" that he's referring to .. is that me?  Does he consider me to be a pain in his ass?  And just because I am maybe a pain in his ass.. does that mean that he would rather not have me around?  I mean.. my husband can be a pain in my ass sometimes too but I would never ever think that not having him around is a blessing!  And while my dad may be right about kids being a pain in the ass.. I want the option to choose!  The choice of having children has been stripped from me!!  If you don't want children, that's great.. that's your choice.  I don't get that option!
I didn't speak to my father for several months after that.  The next time I spoke to him is when he called to tell me that my grandmother was in the hospital.  This is when he says to me.. "And just for the record, I don't agree with how you're going about having a child." At first I thought, what do you mean how I'm going about it.  Surely he doesn't mean ivf, because what could he have against it?  He's an atheist, so he can't have any religious opinions on it!  He goes on to say.. "I don't agree with you spending that kind of money. I don't think it's worth it."  I lost it!  Excuse me?  You don't agree with how I'm spending my money because YOU don't think a child is worth it?  First of all, I make my own money and support myself. I did not ask you for a dime!  Therefore, you have NO right to tell me how I can or can not spend my money.  If this is what I choose to spend it on.. then so be it!  But did I also just hear you say you don't think a child is worth it?  Does that mean you can put a price on having me?  Am I that much of a pain in the ass that if you had to do it all over again and had to pay to have me.. you wouldn't do it?  I am wondering.. at what point did he realize I am a pain in the ass to him.  Was it when I stuck by him when he struggled through alcoholism even though my sister left him... or maybe when I earned my college degree.. or when I bought my first, second or third home?  Ohhh maybe it was when he realized I had a great career and was completely independent.  Yeah, I can totally see how he'd think I'm a pain in the ass..
How could a father be so bold and COLD to have shared that with their daughter?  Father or not.. don't ever impose your views or choices on me. Especially when I am hurting so much as it is!