Us + Infertility <> Adoption

I keep saying one day I'm going to write a book.. "What NOT To Say To A Woman Struggling With Infertility".  Number one on the list will be, "Well, there's always adoption".  Nothing aggravates me more than when someone says that to me. Just so you know, adoption is NOT the default answer to an infertile couple's problems!  Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that couples decide to adopt!  Lord knows there are plenty of great kids that need loving parents.  However, please don't assume that adoption is right for every couple.  Jeremy and I both think it's a wonderful answer for many couples.. just not us.  For one, I've already raised someone else's child.  So I already know the difficulties in raising a child who is not your own;  trust me when I say, they are plentiful!  Second, I can't tell you how many stories I've heard about the difficulties couples go through during the adoption process.  Talk about an emotional roller coaster!  I wouldn't be able to handle it if the birth parents changed their mind right before the child was in our care.  Even more so, AFTER the child had been placed in our home!  Just the thought of it tears my heart up.  There are many other reasons but these are my main two for my personal decision to not be open towards adoption.  So please do me a favor: next time someone shares their struggles of infertility with you, do not tell them that there's always adoption - like it's some sort of miracle cure for them.